Interview with Melissa

Another installment for PenPals, we’re building a community people!

Melissa is the owner of Taking What is Left and my bloggy friend! She’s quirky (she just watched part of a Mork& Mindy marathon), she recently relented and added a snake to her family (a real snake, not that uncle no one’s heard from) and she’s participating in NaNoWriMo this month. That makes her time here at PinkAsparagus even more precious, she’s got writing obligations! Yet she’s here! It’s like I’ve arrived.


You think you’ve arrived? This is soooo cool! I’ve never been asked to something like this before, so this is big fun for me.  And don’t feel like you’re taking me away from NaNo. I’m still writing, but fifty thousand words is a lot more than it seems. I’ll be happy if I finish the story before the end of the year.

Would you classify your online existence as transparent or compartmentalized? Why? Is it by design or just the evolution of your actual life?

Definitely compartmentalized. My whole life is that way. I tend to keep the different parts of my life away from each other. I don’t talk about the blog with my real life friends, I don’t talk about orchestra to people who aren’t in orchestra. I don’t even blog about orchestra nearly as much as I thought I would, considering it is such a huge part of my life. Same thing goes with my church involvement. Not sure why though, but it does make our annual Christmas party pretty interesting, since I’ll invite people from all parts of my life.

Who are you in real life?

I’m pretty much the same as you see on the blog. I don’t have enough energy or time to be a different person in different places. Although I swear a lot more in real life, and I’m much thinner and cuter on the blog.

What’s an ideal day for you look like?

This is so hard to say. What my ideal day looks like depends an awful lot on what is going on around me at the time. Right now, that would mean getting up on time, actually finishing something that I have started, having a little time to myself somewhere, and a pedicure or chair massage. Come to think about it, everyday should involve a pedicure or chair massage.

What do you blog about?

Whatever pops into my demented little mind. Or ends up in my camera phone. I take lots of random pictures with my camera phone. I remember thinking that a camera on a phone was the silliest thing ever, but when I got my new phone, that was one of the first things I checked out.

When did you begin blogging?

October 2007

What does blogging do for you?

It gives me an outlet to express myself in my own way to people who think somewhat the same way. I say I’m pretty much the same in real life as on the blog, but a lot of people in my real life just aren’t sure what to make of me. So it’s nice to commune with people who get it in the same way I do.

Do your day-to-day in-person friends read you? If not, why not? If so, do they say much to you about it?

The only people in my real life who know about this blog are Spouse, my SIL, and my MIL. Like I said before, I’m pretty compartmentalized and I don’t like sharing this part of my life with others. It’s mine, all mine!

Have you ever taken down a post? If yes, without divulging your inner-most secret, can you say why?

Ahem. Yeah, well, see where my MIL reads the blog? Let’s just say I found out the hard way that she did. In the interest of family harmony, I took it down.

Do you check your stats? If so, what are you looking for?

Yep, sure do. I like finding out how people get to my Q list site. It’s amazing how many people out there have trouble with LG dishwashers. I get about ten hits a day just from that. But I never get any of those really scary search strings. I feel kind of left out about that actually. Maybe I should write more about my pedicure fetishes and need for a new G string (for my cello).

If you could make one rule for the Internet what would it be?

Be excellent to each other.

What do you think your blog will be like in 5 years?

On something better than Blogger, with a sister blog that reviews kid lit and actually makes a little bit of money.

Do you have secret talents?

I can gargle the theme to the original Star Trek. Yes, alcohol was involved in the discovery of this talent.

What do you wish I asked? Ask and answer:

If I ever came to Austin, would you show me around?

Absolutely! I would love to meet some of my bloggy friends in real life. I also make great fajitas and Spouse makes a wicked margarita. It would be great fun. Just don’t come in August. Austin is the fifth circle of Hell in August.

This was a lot of fun! Thanks so much for inviting me to the party!


Thank you Melissa! I appreciate you spending time here and helping me successfully finish out NaBloPoMo.

10 smart people left their mark:

  1. Pamela, 30. November 2008, 10:43

    It’s so nice to know that there are other people out there…the ones who have other people who don’t know what to make of them. Bloggy comfort.

    Pamelas last blog close!

  2. Tracie, 30. November 2008, 10:44

    It’s fun to read about other bloggers…love the interviews! Thanks.

    Tracies last blog post..Reflections…

  3. melissaz, 30. November 2008, 16:50

    Thanks for letting me play along! This was so much fun.

    melissazs last blog post..With most sincere apologies to T.S. Eliot

  4. Marinka, 30. November 2008, 19:05

    I love this interview. I read Melissa’s blog all the time (I’m not her MIL) and it’s fantastic. Interesting questions about compartmentalizing. I never thought of it that way.

    Marinkas last blog post..Days of Whine and Roses

  5. Sophie, Inzaburbs, 30. November 2008, 22:00

    Great interview. Interesting, I compartmentalize my life in the same way.

  6. Anu, 30. November 2008, 23:08

    Love this interview! Now I have another blog to read though (yours – I got here from Melissa’s blog).

    Anus last blog post..Thursday Thirteen (on Saturday): Things I’m Thankful For

  7. bekkah, 1. December 2008, 6:28

    Great interview! I’ve been lovin’ Melissa’s site for awhile now :)

    Strange though, I now have a huge desire to pop Bill & Ted into my DVD player?!

    “Be excellent to each other.”

  8. Beth Partin, 1. December 2008, 13:50

    That was a good interview. Love the part about the MIL. Mine has never commented…yet.

    Beth Partins last blog post..MonHaibun: Stuffed and Stumped

  9. Karen MEG, 2. December 2008, 16:45

    I’ve been a follower of Melissa’s for a while now (maybe even around the time she started it?) and she’s great! I love her internet motto :Be Excellent to each other … if only life were that simple, eh?

    Karen MEGs last blog post..It was a dream….

  10. Paul, 3. December 2008, 17:33

    thanks fro introducing me to another nanowrimo person (sort of).

    Sorry for the double post on the other thing – it gave me a dead page on the first time so I hit back. Honest. I think it may be to do with commentluv – I am really unconvinced about comment luv, seriously.

    Pauls last blog post..Bad Sex awards (they’re for WRITING about it!)