Comments on: Community Identity http://pinkasparag.us/2008/08/community-identity/ all my randomness spewed on the Internet Mon, 23 Apr 2012 18:13:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Pink Asparagus » Interview with Wreke http://pinkasparag.us/2008/08/community-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-5810 Pink Asparagus » Interview with Wreke Thu, 18 Sep 2008 13:11:26 +0000 http://pinkasparag.us/?p=382#comment-5810 [...] we’re getting to know the woman behind wrekehavoc. Wreke and I connected over Community Identity a new family moved in to my neighborhood last year. we’ve befriended them, and a funny thing [...] [...] we’re getting to know the woman behind wrekehavoc. Wreke and I connected over Community Identity a new family moved in to my neighborhood last year. we’ve befriended them, and a funny thing [...]

]]> By: Kelly O http://pinkasparag.us/2008/08/community-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-4848 Kelly O Mon, 11 Aug 2008 17:17:28 +0000 http://pinkasparag.us/?p=382#comment-4848 I completely agree. When we lived in DC, there were always lots of friends and neighbors around who would all help each other out. I've been trying to cultivate that kind of relationship with my new neighbors ever since we moved to the suburbs, but I think I come off as stalky and weird, and maybe a little too desperate or something. Anyway, it's not happening yet. Kelly Os last blog post..<a href="http://kellygo.blogspot.com/2008/08/shes-setting-herself-up-for-world-of.html" rel="nofollow">She's setting herself up for a world of hurt</a> I completely agree. When we lived in DC, there were always lots of friends and neighbors around who would all help each other out. I’ve been trying to cultivate that kind of relationship with my new neighbors ever since we moved to the suburbs, but I think I come off as stalky and weird, and maybe a little too desperate or something. Anyway, it’s not happening yet.

Kelly Os last blog post..She’s setting herself up for a world of hurt

]]> By: Joy http://pinkasparag.us/2008/08/community-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-4819 Joy Sat, 09 Aug 2008 14:58:07 +0000 http://pinkasparag.us/?p=382#comment-4819 You're right about communities...I know some neighbors but here in little India (I mean Plano), we have a very multi-cultural environment of many Indians and Chinese and they stick together. Now, my mom lives one street away and being who she is, she knows ALL her neighbors well and for awhile, played the organ for the Chinese church nearby where she was the only non-Chinese around. She's bold that way. Fortunately, the Chinese and Indians are a modest crowd so no public, un-wanted nudity here. Once, when I lived in Florida, a beautiful girl down the street used to wash her car wearing a thong and she was someone you wouldn't mind seeing wearing a thong. In fact, she was a Hooter's girl. The husbands in the neighborhood suddenly felt the urge to go on many errands and drive up and down the street to catch a glimpse of her. It was funny and irritating all at the same time. OK, mainly irritating... Joys last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ObsessedWithScrapbooking/~3/352168449/check-out-this-digi-scrapbook-i-made-on.html" rel="nofollow">Check out this digi scrapbook I made on smilebox.com!</a> You’re right about communities…I know some neighbors but here in little India (I mean Plano), we have a very multi-cultural environment of many Indians and Chinese and they stick together. Now, my mom lives one street away and being who she is, she knows ALL her neighbors well and for awhile, played the organ for the Chinese church nearby where she was the only non-Chinese around. She’s bold that way.

Fortunately, the Chinese and Indians are a modest crowd so no public, un-wanted nudity here.

Once, when I lived in Florida, a beautiful girl down the street used to wash her car wearing a thong and she was someone you wouldn’t mind seeing wearing a thong. In fact, she was a Hooter’s girl. The husbands in the neighborhood suddenly felt the urge to go on many errands and drive up and down the street to catch a glimpse of her. It was funny and irritating all at the same time. OK, mainly irritating…

Joys last blog post..Check out this digi scrapbook I made on smilebox.com!

]]> By: shauna http://pinkasparag.us/2008/08/community-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-4671 shauna Thu, 07 Aug 2008 12:14:29 +0000 http://pinkasparag.us/?p=382#comment-4671 anderson cooper is definitely gay, but who cares? he's totally adorable. and he wins bonus points with me for being the son of gloria vanderbilt. i grew up wearing her jeans. you understand, not her ACTUAL jeans, but jeans that she designed and had mass produced for retail sale. nevermind. anderson cooper is definitely gay, but who cares? he’s totally adorable. and he wins bonus points with me for being the son of gloria vanderbilt. i grew up wearing her jeans. you understand, not her ACTUAL jeans, but jeans that she designed and had mass produced for retail sale. nevermind.

]]> By: Catherine http://pinkasparag.us/2008/08/community-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-4633 Catherine Thu, 07 Aug 2008 02:48:16 +0000 http://pinkasparag.us/?p=382#comment-4633 Sher - that is totally what I am talking about! You and your neighbor are better off because you watch out for one another. We all need someone to have our back. And not just friends, but those that are geographically close. Pamela & Lynn - thank you for reminding me that I am indeed fortunate, no naked people on my block. Although I do think one neighbor built a love shack in their backyard. Sher – that is totally what I am talking about! You and your neighbor are better off because you watch out for one another. We all need someone to have our back. And not just friends, but those that are geographically close.

Pamela & Lynn – thank you for reminding me that I am indeed fortunate, no naked people on my block. Although I do think one neighbor built a love shack in their backyard.

]]> By: Pamela http://pinkasparag.us/2008/08/community-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-4632 Pamela Thu, 07 Aug 2008 02:40:14 +0000 http://pinkasparag.us/?p=382#comment-4632 Ooh, the half-naked neighbor. I have That Guy across the street. I had blocked it out of my mind, in favour of the lovely people, until Lynn mentioned hers. He has to be at least 60, and obviously spends money, lots and lots of money, on tanning. He has a beer gut. And a bald head with the fly-aways on top. And *cringes* a speedo. Excuse me, but I need to go barf now. Pamelas last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/irVs/~3/357408326/good-news-people.html" rel="nofollow">good news, people</a> Ooh, the half-naked neighbor. I have That Guy across the street. I had blocked it out of my mind, in favour of the lovely people, until Lynn mentioned hers. He has to be at least 60, and obviously spends money, lots and lots of money, on tanning. He has a beer gut. And a bald head with the fly-aways on top. And *cringes* a speedo.

Excuse me, but I need to go barf now.

Pamelas last blog post..good news, people

]]> By: Lynn http://pinkasparag.us/2008/08/community-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-4629 Lynn Wed, 06 Aug 2008 23:20:37 +0000 http://pinkasparag.us/?p=382#comment-4629 We lived away from our families for 10 years, 5 of those with kids. We really had to search out good neighbors as that emergency back-up. Now that we live near our families, I've spoken to one neighbor and that was to tell him "nice to meet you, but could you not come into our house uninvited?" He really isn't that nice anyway. I feel like we are actually nice people who want to get to know our neighbors but our neighbors are not people I want to get to know now. Is it elitism? Or I just don't want to strike a relationship with the neighbors that walk around outside half naked at 10pm taking on their phone? Or the ones that let their pre-teens out til 10pm in their pool, waking my kids up? I think it's also dependent on geography. In Texas, we had an AMAZING set of neighbors who baled my ass out during "husband with vertigo" episode. California... ummm.. different story. Something else I noticed... I always searched out people, but no one ever searches out for us to establish that relationship. Hmmm... strike the comment above. Maybe we aren't the nicest, maybe we look scary and tall? We lived away from our families for 10 years, 5 of those with kids. We really had to search out good neighbors as that emergency back-up.

Now that we live near our families, I’ve spoken to one neighbor and that was to tell him “nice to meet you, but could you not come into our house uninvited?” He really isn’t that nice anyway.

I feel like we are actually nice people who want to get to know our neighbors but our neighbors are not people I want to get to know now. Is it elitism? Or I just don’t want to strike a relationship with the neighbors that walk around outside half naked at 10pm taking on their phone? Or the ones that let their pre-teens out til 10pm in their pool, waking my kids up?

I think it’s also dependent on geography. In Texas, we had an AMAZING set of neighbors who baled my ass out during “husband with vertigo” episode. California… ummm.. different story.

Something else I noticed… I always searched out people, but no one ever searches out for us to establish that relationship. Hmmm… strike the comment above. Maybe we aren’t the nicest, maybe we look scary and tall?

]]> By: sher http://pinkasparag.us/2008/08/community-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-4628 sher Wed, 06 Aug 2008 22:40:21 +0000 http://pinkasparag.us/?p=382#comment-4628 anderson cooper is yummy, indeed. but i think i read somewhere (and i hope i'm wrong, if only because it wreaks havoc with my personal little reverie) that he plays for the other team, if you know what i mean. not that there's anything wrong with that. a new family moved in to my neighborhood last year. we've befriended them, and a funny thing has happened: when i'm running late because of my medical treatments, she gets my kids and hangs onto them til i get home. when she's running late at work, i take her kids. we took care of their hamsters while they were out of town. it's the most wonderful thing. some people probably just naturally have this; i never did until last year. i don't have family nearby, and in times of trouble, we've always struggled. i'm beginning to like this community thing that i once feared. i really, truly am. shers last blog post..<a href="http://wrekehavoc.wordpress.com/2008/08/06/no-rain/" rel="nofollow">no rain</a> anderson cooper is yummy, indeed. but i think i read somewhere (and i hope i’m wrong, if only because it wreaks havoc with my personal little reverie) that he plays for the other team, if you know what i mean. not that there’s anything wrong with that.

a new family moved in to my neighborhood last year. we’ve befriended them, and a funny thing has happened: when i’m running late because of my medical treatments, she gets my kids and hangs onto them til i get home. when she’s running late at work, i take her kids. we took care of their hamsters while they were out of town. it’s the most wonderful thing. some people probably just naturally have this; i never did until last year.

i don’t have family nearby, and in times of trouble, we’ve always struggled. i’m beginning to like this community thing that i once feared. i really, truly am.

shers last blog post..no rain

]]> By: Catherine http://pinkasparag.us/2008/08/community-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-4623 Catherine Wed, 06 Aug 2008 20:22:09 +0000 http://pinkasparag.us/?p=382#comment-4623 Pamela - I think I would struggle with everyone being in my biz-nass. It sounds as though you've found a balance though. Sara - A/C hadn't occurred to me, but you're right. Maybe also the attached garage? I know the previous owners of our house would pull into their garage and close it before anyone could say peep to them. They didn't have to be seen if they didn't want to. Modern day conveniences are making us more silo'd. Pamela – I think I would struggle with everyone being in my biz-nass. It sounds as though you’ve found a balance though.

Sara – A/C hadn’t occurred to me, but you’re right. Maybe also the attached garage? I know the previous owners of our house would pull into their garage and close it before anyone could say peep to them. They didn’t have to be seen if they didn’t want to.

Modern day conveniences are making us more silo’d.

]]> By: Sara http://pinkasparag.us/2008/08/community-identity/comment-page-1/#comment-4622 Sara Wed, 06 Aug 2008 20:13:44 +0000 http://pinkasparag.us/?p=382#comment-4622 I once heard that air conditioning was responsible for the death of communities. During the summer months when it's hot, people in the days of yore would go outside, sit on their porches, and spy on one another. Er, gossip. I mean, catch up and bond. Now, everyone stays inside where it's cool and tolerable. Don't know if it's true, but could certainly be a contributing factor, no? Saras last blog post..<a href="http://www.motherproof.com/2008/08/drivers-edge-me.html" rel="nofollow">Driver’s Edge Messenbaugh Arrives!</a> I once heard that air conditioning was responsible for the death of communities. During the summer months when it’s hot, people in the days of yore would go outside, sit on their porches, and spy on one another. Er, gossip. I mean, catch up and bond. Now, everyone stays inside where it’s cool and tolerable. Don’t know if it’s true, but could certainly be a contributing factor, no?

Saras last blog post..Driver’s Edge Messenbaugh Arrives!

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